I understand but come on

I want to start off and say that I completely understand but, even though I do I can’t help but be bummed by this person.

This whole pregnancy has been nothing like it was planned to be. Covid has truly rocked everything around it.

My stepmom hasn’t made things any better. If it something that doesn’t involve her full blooded son it doesn’t get her attention. There’s no dollar amount that’s too high for him. Both of my parents together make 150k. My little brother goes by to a prestigious probated school that 13k a year and is on an all star baseball team that travels around. I get it and she’s always been this way. It’s just who she is and that’s okay. I’m glad they take care of him. ❤️

There was a surprise shower being planned for us. Covid compliant and social distance approved, for next month. When my MIL asked my stepmom is she’s like to help (take her mind off things) my stepmom said no. MIL just needed help with doing stuff.

I don’t want make this super long so I’ll keep it short.

-The shower ended up being canceled because my friend helping didn’t send out the invites so I one knew about it.

-My stepmom works in ultrasound. She’s been trying to find ways to get any gathering canceled. I.e. family members who were invited. Crying and telling them I’m going to get Covid and not to come.

-Ladies from church heard the shower was canceled and let loose that they were already planning a surprise one too. That we could invite people to their shower. No one from my family wants to come because my stepmom called them (found this out yesterday).

-MIL has tried to contact Stepmom over and over as to what’s going on. Stepmom has been avoiding calls but will text. She’s been trying to talk MIL into canceling this shower too. So I contacted her. She avoided the topic and talked about her new job instead.

-Last night my Dad comes over. Tells DH and me that stepmom won’t be coming to the shower. That she took off time for the one that got canceled and wasn’t going to ask for a different day off for the church one. That she doesn’t come and visit because she’s terrified of getting me sick. (But she never visits us in normal life) That she’s staying away until Oct. when the baby is born. That’s she’s told the family not to come too so they don’t infect me. He tried to talk us into canceling this shower too. The shower is only 10 people now and 2 wks away. We JUST were able to fix the mess my friend made with the original shower and they want us to cancel this one too.

There’s a whole lot more but I’d be writing a novel. Lol. My stepmom has had nothing to do with the baby since we found out. I can’t believe she’s been going behind everyone and trying to get things canceled by telling them horror stories. We’re taking precautions and I’m not even in charge of anything that’s going on. 😔 I understand the scariness of it all but I think there’s way more to it.