How to survive newborn stage?

Mel

I have 16 weeks old (7 weeks corrected as they were 9 weeks premature) twins and am at a loss. We knew it would be difficult but nothing prepares us for this.

We are maintaining them on the same eating schedule (if one wakes to eat then we wake the other) as I’m tandem breastfeeding, the crazy reflux they had that required us to hold them upright in someone’s arms 24/7 until two weeks ago has finally improved significantly and they sometimes do sleep at the same time overnight (we try to encourage this as much as we can but some nights they’re complete opposites which means I hardly get any sleep).

They are extremely fussy, usually always one of them fussing/crying and difficult to calm down. Going for walks and drives sometimes helps and are currently our best options. We have my parents living with us to help us 24/7 but can’t maintain this much longer which means I’ll be alone with the girls soon.

The babies only do up to 20 mins at a time in the swing, same for the play mat. They often want to be held but even then one of them is usually fussing, and they refuse to nap anywhere other than on us daytime (though somehow we finally got them to sleep in their bassinets overnight about two weeks ago 🤷‍♀️)

Im at a loss trying to understand how I can do this all day long by myself? (My husband il be here at times but so far we really need to be 3 people so that one per baby and another person to cook/clean/run errands).

Do you just leave the babies in their swing to cry for hours? Am I just being overly sensitive on not wanting to do so?

Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated as I truly feel that I’m failing as a mother so far :(

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