Okay so I gave birth to my son about two months ago and we have basically been quarantining this whole time because not only do we have a newborn we also have a toddler. On top my husband has hypertension which makes him high risk for complications if he catches covid 19. A few weeks ago we arranged a visit for my mom her husband and my sister to come stay with us and meet the new baby. We all took precautions and they even got tested before coming to visit to make sure we are all safe. Because they do work and quarantining isn’t something they can do. Which was great! The visit went beautiful and it was amazing to see them when I haven’t seen them since Christmas pretty much. (Btw I live about a 5 hour drive from my family so when covid 19 hit we all stayed home) now onto the part where I’m extremely mad...

So next we were arranging for my dad and his girlfriend to come visit. They were supposed to come tomorrow (Tuesday). I called on Sunday to make sure all is good with their test. He then told us they’re not coming on Tuesday now because of some renovations they’re doing. And that they *might* come next week. We grocery shopped last week in preparation for their visit so we can stay inside and quarantine before they come up. My dad works and his girlfriend doesn’t but she often babysits for her sister. They haven’t been super cautious as they have recently thrown a family event and attended another family event this past weekend. Also my dads girlfriend posted a video of them at a beach that was jammed packed. No one social distancing no one wearing masks. My dad told my sister that he thinks that this virus is blown out of proportion. Anyway I told them leading up to their visit they need to be cautious but they’ve done the exact opposite and on top of that his girlfriend told him she doesn’t want to “get a swab shoved up her nose” but then told my dad for their safety that we should get tested before they come. Then after some back and forth they said that they will get tested before coming up however we must get tested too or else they won’t be visiting. I was livid after explaining to my dad that we haven’t gone anywhere in preparation for their visit so me dragging everyone out of the house to get tested makes no sense. Then he told me that he feels we don’t care about their health! I’m sorry but don’t pull the health card when you guys are living like there’s no pandemic. Wtf. So anyway when I told him we are not getting tested because we haven’t gone anywhere that’s when he said he won’t be coming if we don’t get the test so I said great I guess you’re not coming and hung up.

I’m mostly angry because I know he only asked us to get the test because his girlfriend told him that. She doesn’t like being told what to do so to speak so she deflected and tried to turn it around to me. All while they’re visiting other people having parties etc. They’re allowing their pettiness to get in the way of meeting their new grand baby and their first grandson. And even have no respect for my time as he waited till the last minute to tell me they’re not coming after i already prepared for their visit. I just thinks it’s funny how they pick and choose when to worry about their health even though visiting us who has been quarantining is less of a risk than these parties and beach trips. 🙄🙄 Glad to know where I stand.

I guess this was more of a rant. Grrr.

Edit: yes we were worried they would of just lied about getting tested because they have been sneaky about their whereabouts lately and I only know about these parties because of social media and seeing pictures on other family members social media. So my sister actually called my dad and said she would go with them to get tested and come up to see me again. She’s not working right no so she’d love to come up for another visit. To which my dad told her “no we like to do our own thing” so part of me is glad they’re not coming because at this point they’ve given me reason to not trust them. Which is so sad because we are generally really close and I’ve never really argued with my dad before (btw I’m 30) but it is what it is. My kids safety comes before appeasing anyone’s big egos.