I’m sick and Tired ! 😪

A little quick backstory. I had my first daughter at 20. I moved out to my own apartment with her her biological dad would come and stay sometimes to help out we were together at the time. He wasn’t much too involved with her tho. I decided to go back to college by the time she turned 1 I wasn’t able to stay in my apartment anymore and moved back in with my family. Due to me being in college and packed with work or at school much of the day she was home with my mother. When I’d come home I’d be tired or doing homework. So my family would help me out with her pretty much. (I have my two parents and a younger brother and my older sister).

Fast forward to now am 28 soon and married I have my second daughter. My oldest is now 7 and she is struggling in school a bit she had a speech delay and am not sure yet if she has a learning disability. She doesn’t quite grasp things quickly. (Also a side note I got confirmed to having a learning disability growing up in school. ) Anyway my husband decided we let her do work throughout the day/ summer to catch up and so she’s prepared for school. My daughter loves to play a lot and she can’t sit long periods of time she will start Fidgetting with things. She also shows a small attention span. She will focus then start doing something else or start talking to herself and playing. But me and my husband noticed she will listen and try sit whenever he tells her too and when she doesn’t listen and yells she quick to listen. And when he goes off to work and leaves the work with me for her to do she will not listen and play around and joke and not take me serious.

I told him I try and what does he expect me to do. And today he said to me when he leaves and comes back and the work isn’t done it’s disrespectful to him and how she doesn’t respect me and am not doing a great job and him and his mom thinks am leaving all the work on him. And how am not trying and am at home doing nothing.

To be honest you guys that hurt 😥, it takes me back to when she was a baby and it was just me and her. And how I struggled to finish college and to better myself and how I had to leave her with my mom to accomplish these things. I told him we have a one year old going on two so she’s everywhere and am trying to also get house work done too. I have tried everything with her I yell I take things away. I’m at a loss now. Then he goes on to complain when am doing something else for me to cook him breakfast cause he tired from last night at work and to do this and that!

I’m only one person! 😓 idk if she does this because she comfortable with me idk he came into her life when she was going on two so idk what she can remember. If she does have a learning disability I would need to seek help in how I can help her.