porn > girlfriend

i get so insecure knowing my boyfriend watches porn and gets off to it every other if not every night. he's open and honest that he does, and obviously i allow him to do it. i don't think it'd be fair of me to say he's not allowed to.

but it gets me so down that he does this so frequently but doesn't do anything sexually with me - no sex, no asking me to give him head/handjob, no doing anything for me. we both have 4+ bodies and have had sex with each other before and it use to be frequent. it's not a new aspect of our relationship or for us in general. but after 5 months together it became every other week, then every other month. now we sometimes do 1x a week and more often 1x a month after a year and a half.

before the obvious "talk to him" comments... i have SO many times. i've dropped hints, sent sexual texts, sent pics, blatantly verbalized that i want to and that i'm unhappy with our sex life and have had no luck. in fact the most he's ever responded with is "stop saying we never have sex, it makes me feel insecure"

like yes, it's making me feel insecure as well that you do this stuff on your own but want nothing to do with your girlfriend

i don't know what to do about the situation anymore. we both discussed that sex life is an important aspect of relationships to both of us