Sex after miscarriage

I miscarried Sept 11 and I will have days I don’t bleed so we have sex and then I start bleeding like I’m on my period again. Twice I’ve had clots size of golf balls come out and cramping and then back to light spotting and feeling just fine...I told the husband maybe no sex for a week or so. I wanted to get back to trying..having sex everyday but I don’t think my body is ready at alllll😞