Seeking some input...please hear me out

I apologize in advance for the lengthy post, I’m just frustrated (and feeling bad about feeling frustrated) and need some advice or just some people who maybe understand my frustration.

Quick backstory: my husband and I have been ttc #2 for a while and have been having some difficulty. A friend, who recently found out she’s expecting and who clearly knows we are actively trying says to me, “are you still trying to have another?” As I responded “yes” she proceeds to say, “it happened on the very first try for us! But really we weren’t even trying and I wasn’t even ready for kids, but when I missed my period I took a test and was like ‘oops’” and it really hurt me. Then she proceeds to tell me, “don’t be discouraged, it’ll happen when it’s supposed to.” I just couldn’t even respond.

Fast forward to this past weekend: last Thursday, I found out some heartbreaking news about my stepfather and am still processing what is going on. This person knew what was going on and still had the nerve to text me Saturday morning with a, “hey! I know this probably isn’t the best time, but I was wondering if I could have your crib for my baby? If you do end up getting pregnant I’ll obviously give it back and buy my own but yours is so nice and why waste the money!” I waited all day to respond because initially I was pissed that she asked when she did and now I feel guilty for feeling that way.

I’m excited for her, I truly am. I think I just feel so many mixed emotions about her words and actions: she knows I’m trying but sometimes her comments make me feel like she’s rubbing in the fact that she’s pregnant and we’re still trying...why are you asking for the crib I have when you know I’m still trying to get pregnant, because I’m going to feel super bad if it happens and I have to ask for you to give it back...you could’ve picked a better time to ask me for it that wasn’t when my father was in the hospital and a good 6 months before you’re even due...etc. It really feels like she’s being dismissive of my emotions and situation.

I know I sound petty and I’m not trying to make excuses for myself— I’m just freaking frustrated and emotional! How do I handle this? Am I wrong for feeling upset? What would you do or how would you react? Honestly?