Mom Not Attending Baby Shower 😔

I’m so sad. My mother and I never had the best relationship. She has a hard time connecting with people and has always been a bit cold. She never says “I love you” and has a difficult time showing affection. It could be her defense mechanism but regardless it always stung. A part of me knew she would not attend my baby shower because that is what she does. I sent her the invite because it’s the right thing to do. She was never the kind of mom who shows up with a smile and a hug for things like this! If she’s having a stressful month or if our relationship isn’t great, she’ll be the first one to make a point and not come to whatever important thing I invite her to. I’m throwing a Covid safe outdoor baby shower and she is not attending. She doesn’t believe in Covid and goes to the gym and other crowded places so it’s not because she’s trying to be safe, which I would understand. I found out she’s not attending through the evite company which tells me who is and isn’t attending. She didn’t have the courtesy of letting me know through email, a text or a phone call. I’m so sad. This is her first grand baby. She’s so difficult and it’s really getting to me. When I asked her if she was going to take her flu shots this year because I was hoping family on close contact with newborn would get their shots her response was “no, I guess I’m not going to be around the baby” She’s just so difficult but it especially hurts that she’s not attending my baby shower.