Baby shower ??

I am pregnant with my first child and my sister passed away 3 months ago, she was going to throw my baby shower, we already had theme, ideas, and everything that I wanted to stick to. Things have been hard, She was the closest relative I had, I didnt have that close of a relationship with anyone else. Anyway my niece is older than me& she wanted to finish the ideas we started& do my shower but needed help & that turned into my other siblings taking over, which they never listen to me. I wanted to get a small building , so we could all be spaced out, it will only be 10 people there & they have agreed to get tested first (their decision) , but I wanted the building because my husband and I still have to pay for majority anyway, but they are telling me to just do it at a house. None of my family has spacious homes, my gender reveal was very crowded with nowhere to sit. They are saying I don’t need to make a shower a big deal when all of them had nice showers and went wayyy out of the way. I just wanted something simple& nice for once. Especially after my wedding where they cancelled my Dj, said they had one for me but didn’t & I found out the day of, no reception kinda sucked, they also started my wedding before I was even ready, the maid of honor had to walk last. I am the “little sister” & I feel like they don’t treat me like I deserve nice things, everything for me is settle for what I can get. I would get it if they paid for it or something but We paid for our own wedding so I felt it should have been how we planned it to go& will be paying majority for this shower so I should be able to keep the ideas I already had. Would you just go along with it anyway ??