Should I Do What My BF Wants Or What The BM Wants?

Question

I've been dating this amazing guy for 6 months now. He's 3 years older than me and has a son. With that being said, his BM (baby mama) doesn't like me being around her son, but my BF wants me to bond with him. The BM always has her BF around and Cole (my boyfriend) doesn't mind, it just irritates him that she's a hypocrite. I love his son, and I want to be in his life.

Answer

The relationships will not work without respect of the child's mother. My daughters biological father and I are not together. Her bio father is respectful and wants me to meet his girlfriends if they are going to be around our daughter. I have yet to have an objection. But if I felt his girlfriend was not suitable to be around my daughter and he did not respect my feelings our daughter would not be going to her fathers.

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Youre his gf and the little boy is his son so if you plan on being w/ him then of course the son is going to be around, don't allow her to interfer w/ you loving the little boy. She's most likely jealous, her only concern should be if you're treating him right which im pretty sure you are.❤️

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I would try and sit down & speak to the mother as you need to remember it is her child aswell and you do need to respect her wishes. I'm sure if you all sat down and spoke about it you would be able to sort something out. 
​You just need to remember that if you had a child and you asked the new girlfriend not to be around him you would be upset that she isn't respecting your wishes :)

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Update: I tried getting a job and found out the BM works there (I honestly had no clue) and I also found out that her and my cousin used to be BFF. Anyways, she told the manager not to hire me because I'm "a fucking bitching"
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​I've never done anything to her. When she asked me to stop seeing her son, I did. Cole asked me to see him, so I said okay. I only said okay because she had her BF around all the time no matter what Cole had to say.

Should I Do What My BF Wants Or What The BM Wants?

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