He doesn’t want to get married, I do?

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Would it be odd for me to breakup with my boyfriend of five years because he won’t marry me? He’s very avoidant of the convo and mentions things like nobody wanting me because of my body and our two kids. Which isn’t true, ppl love me! I was shaped up bad before the kids lol. Anywho, it has me pretty bummed all of these excuses.. he says stuff like we can’t afford a nice wedding or wings which is true but.. I just feel he’s trying to buy time. I was comfortable in our situation if boyfriend/girlfriend but now I’m not. I feel desperate and pathetic because I sacrifice a lot for us and just want this. Would I b dumb to focus on me and the kids and move back home until I can save enough to move? Co parent? Or I’m over reacting?

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Your not over reacting, you have every right to want to be married ,if your boyfriend doesn't want to marry then you need to decide what you really want .best of luck

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You are not over reacting. And if he’s putting you down like that you should leave. You can do better. And men don’t care if you have kids these days. You’d be able to find someone who loves you for you and give you everything you deserve. I’m sorry he talks to you that way. Don’t marry someone who puts you down girl. You need someone to lift you up!!

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You have different goals and desires for your future. That's a very valid reason to end a relationship. And that's without the emotional abuse of telling you you couldn't do any better or treating you like you're not good enough.

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Wow I would think twice about being without someone putting you down like that. If you guys want different things you have no obligation to stay with him. If you can't work it out then by all means you should do what's best for you!

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You’re not overreacting. I would leave too. There are a lot of good men out there who want what you want and won’t put you down. That’s emotional abuse and he’s doing it to control you. Just know, he may say he wants to marry you after you tell him you’re leaving but won’t follow through, or change. Do you want to marry someone who talks to you like that? That’s not good for kids to go up in and think that’s how they talk to their spouse. Good luck hun.

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If you guys arnt aligned in your thinking, walk away now. It’s unfair of you to stay in a relationship with a man who doesn’t want to get married and it’s unfair to him to stay with you if he doesn’t, but you do. 
So move it along. Also, for future relationships, don’t wait 5 years to find this out. Be upfront in telling your partner your hopes and dreams. Like, “you know one day I’d like to be married and have maybe 1 kid. I’m in no rush, but I think that would be sweet.” You don’t have to be all extremely and say it on the 1st date, but gauge the person a little.

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I mean.
If he says things like "nobody will want you because of your body"..
I wonder if you're sure you want to marry this guy?
You should know you deserve better than that ❤️

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He’s probably not ready to be married and that’s okay. His choice, but  you also have the right to feel the way you do and want to be married. If he says those things to you & being negative I would leave him. That’s verbals abuse and so uncalled for. I would save up and move.

He doesn’t want to get married, I do?

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