In need of advice from real women please.

Advice for young moms please...

I feel like my body is ruined after having a baby then having complications after just takes a toll on me. Her dad always has these high expectations or says I should make my hair straight because I don’t look right natural it’s “nappy” to him but I’ve always had thick good hair tho. Everything is always “fix this fix that”. If I ask for sum it don’t happen tho. I’m 19 He’s 28 our baby is 10 months old now. & I feel like he’s a little boy at times.. I could feel confident one minute then he’ll say something to make me feel low & the sad thoughts are back. Ik I shouldn’t let him control my emotions it just makes me fstow that after he’s seen all that I went through he’ll still CONSTANTLY make me feel like I’m not enough & need to change up something that doesn’t “look” right to him.