Family and husband having issues respecting my decisions when it comes to baby's birth

At 35 weeks baby was found to be frank breech. I am almost 38 weeks now and have attempted an ECV that failed, and tried every trick in the book to get her to turn. Hospitals in my area do not do vaginal breech births under any circumstances unless the baby is literally falling out of you when you get there.

So my options are: schedule csection for 39 or 40 weeks, or wait until labor starts to head in for csection if she isn't head down upon arrival and schedule for 41 weeks. I have opted to wait until labor starts and head in for a csection. No judgment on women who choose differently, it's 100% up to what you feel comfortable with. But its my personal belief that I am more comfortable knowing that she picks her birthday as there has to be some sort of biological mechanism that triggers labor to begin.

This is my last baby and I was planning on an unmedicated vaginal hospital birth. This is basically as close as I can get to that given the circumstances. I have told everyone my decision and they HIGHLY disagree. My mom has resorted to guilt tripping saying I "can't just keep her in forever" and that my body won't tolerate being pregnant until labor starts because I have SPD and prodromal labor. My husband also thinks its ridiculous that im being given the option to be pregnant only for another 7 days and choosing to possibly be pregnant for longer while im in pain. I understand that they are just worried but they are being extremely rude. My mom has said ,"well I am SO SORRY I am being SELFISH for worrying about MY DAUGHTER" and I cant even say anything about normal pregnancy annoyances now without my husband starting in telling me ,"just go ahead and schedule the csection for 39 weeks and get it over with. More convenient anyways so I can schedule for time off with my boss".

Do they not understand that its major surgery? That ill be in pain after just like I am now? Why can't they respect my decisions? Has anyone went through this?

Edit to add: I live 5 minutes away from the hospital and will be leaving as soon as labor starts. I will not be laboring at home for any amount of time.