Sex & Relationships

I brought up to my husband that I needed him to initiate sex more. He said that he didn’t see the problem with me initiating sex more often than he does. I told him I want to feel desired , he told me that he has a hard time getting turned on by me and that I need to look sexier. This hurts so much because I always try to look nice for him by wearing make up, perfume, lingerie that he likes on me. My self-esteem pretty much plummeted after that conversation. Any advice..