Possibly becoming SAHM - advice?

Question

Hey ladies! There’s a good chance I may be losing my job in the next couple weeks due to restructuring/layoffs. I’m stressed out, and the waiting and not knowing is the worst part. I’m supposed to be on paid maternity leave for a couple more months (I have 2 month old), but if I get laid off, my paychecks obviously would stop. I would be looking for a new job if that happens, but my husband says he’s “not worried about it” and we can live on his income. His lack of stress is really helping me stay calm, but my anxiety also has my mind running all over the place 🙃 
So, there’s a chance I could just not get a new job and be a SAHM, at least for awhile. I’m also a FTM, so I’m curious if y’all have tips for being a successful SAHM? How to stay sane if I’m home pretty much all the time, not having my own income, etc. My mom was a SAHM for years when I was little and I LOVED it. I would love to give that kind of childhood to my kids, but I never really saw myself being a SAHM until now so I’ve never really thought about what it actually takes to do it. I know it won’t be easy, so I would love to hear your experiences and advice.

Answer

In my opinion, if it’s an option and it’s not something that sacrifices your mental health, it’s an incredible blessing to have the option. I feel like it’s best for the kids and honestly these first 5 years are most impressionable..I would rather be the one helping them grow a solid foundation than someone else. It doesn’t have to be a forever season, you could be a SAHM for the first year or two and then pick up part time work if you send the babe to preschool, it’s not ever something you’re stuck in forever.

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I’m a SAHM and I LOVE it!! It was definitely a weird transition cause I’ve had a job/my own income for as long as I can remember but honestly as long as your partner makes enough to keep you guys comfortable I say go for it! 
Some days sanity is hard to come by, but filling our days with outside time (I go on an hour long walk with baby and dog every morning + we have a big sunny yard which helps), reading, playing hide and seek and really any game that keeps his attention really helps. My sister in law has been a SAHM for 3 years now and she’s got a much better hang of it than I do. She basically spends her days crafting and baking and playing with her kids. 
I think the hardest part for me was trying to find the right balance between being productive and being present. Some days I clean the whole house, get laundry done, cook breakfast lunch and dinner for me and baby. Other days we hang out in our PJs all day and I sink into the mess and accept that even if I cleaned my kid would make a giant mess again and that’s ok! That and making time for myself has been a big thing. When you’re a SAHM, your life revolves around your tiny human. Their needs and wants are so much more pronounced than yours, but that doesn’t mean you have to put yours aside. I try to take a bath or shower every day, even if it’s just a quick one while he naps. I listen to audio books while I clean or while we play, and that helps. I have a cup of coffee in the morning and watch the news before playtime starts in earnest. It’s been a totally wild transition, going from a working, kid free life to a SAHM but honestly I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

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I think being a SAHM is awesome if it fits your personality and lifestyle. For me, I’d go insane. I know that bc I was a nanny for 5 years so I’m kinda over Elmo and Spider-Man. 🤣 But I do wish I only worked part time so I could see my boo a little more often. 
If you still want to work, I’d start looking for a new job. But that’s just me. Just make sure you’ve read your current contract and don’t owe back pay for maternity leave. Ya know?

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The first couple of months can be pretty tough while you get used to it, I remember feeling pretty isolated & restricted but I also had a newborn & came from a VERY social job. 
 But once you sort of get into a routine you
Learn to love it. My mum wasn’t around too much growing up she worked full time & juggled mum life so it’s kind of nice to be home with my baby everyday. 
 If your family is able to live off a single income don’t stress to much you’ll only have your babies home for so long then once their off to school/ teenagers you can Persue a career again

Possibly becoming SAHM - advice?

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