If you find out your boyfriend has used OnlyFans on multiple ocassions in the last few months, is it considered cheating?

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I found out my boyfriend of over 3 years has spent $50+ on OnlyFans. It’s been going on for the course of multiple months. I am extremely upset and don’t know what to do. I consider it cheating bc he hid it from me and he literally paid for it, while porn sites are free. Am i wrong to consider it cheating? And what should I do?

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Yes! Porn is free. However paying another woman to see her body when he has YOU or porn? No way. Fuck that

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Cheating to me!
Fuck that lol he could see friend naked girls through regular porn

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She could also be sweet talking to him so he keeps paying for her only fans so I would see this as cheating

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Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and that you consider it cheating 
I don’t mind free porn sites but I wouldn’t be happy at all with onlyfans or any paid subs

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Lol he must be desperate. No way I'd pay a dime for that garbage. He wants to act like a bachelor, let him be one. Id find me a real man who doesn't need to pay for other women.

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This a complex discussion I feel.
1) First you need to decide if you are both okay with either party watching any form of porn
2) Does his spending on OF affect his financial situation? As in, is he still able to afford food, bills, travel costs etc?
3) Morally, it is better for him to pay for porn and is beneficial to sex workers as those on Only Fans have chosen to do that and get the majority of their profits as it is their own work and it avoids exploitation. There is a huge problem with the ethics of free porn as people download and reupload content, meaning creators don’t get what their money from their work. Recently, PornHub has had to a massive purge of porn as the other problem with free porn is that there are cases where it is uploaded without the consent of someone in it or it has minors.

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I know I already commented on here, but I keep seeing people being like “I’d be mad cos they can message the creator and flirt”
I do still stand by the fact it is more ethical to pay for porn than to stream it on pornhub, so if you don’t have a problem with him watching porn, I still hold the belief that if he can afford to pay for it he should. That being said $50 seems excessive, especially when creators charge $10 or less for content. So what I would do is set boundaries:
1) I don’t mind you using only fans as long as you don’t spend more than x amount of money a month (I’d say $10 tbh)
2) I don’t mind you watching content on OF but I don’t feel comfortable In you messaging the creators or giving tips or paying for extra content other than a subscription.
Generally speaking, communication and boundaries are key and only you know what you’re comfortable with. I do understand the argument of “spending money on another woman” but I am also a sucker for women’s rights :/ and as long as he isn’t spending above his means or neglecting you and choosing to spend money on porn instead of on you, I think it’s something you should have a serious think and conversation about before demanding he stops using OF all together.

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What is an only fan pages? The same thing as porn?

If you find out your boyfriend has used OnlyFans on multiple ocassions in the last few months, is it considered cheating?

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