Names

Ugh 😫 my husband is being really passive aggressive about this!

Doesn't want any family names, wants a brand new name. Okay fine. I can deal with that.

He said no to my first choice and I said no to his. Okay fine, I can also deal with this (albeit a little disappointed).

We both agreed on a name a while back as a top 5 name that we both liked and he was all for it.

So I've basically been calling this baby by that name when I'm alone. We find out it's a boy and all of a sudden he's all "I don't want that name."

I explain how important this is to me and how I thought we were on the same page and that it feels like this is his name. Mind you, my husband had said to me after our daughter was born "Names don't matter to me, it's just a name."

So a few days later he wraps his arms around me and whispers, "We can name him that name after all." He was so sweet and sincere and he picked out a middle name. His family loves the name too.

Anyway, today he's all "I hate his name, but we aren't changing it." Like what the hell? He's totally fucking with me and I hate it. It's like he's letting me have what I want so that he can use it against me later. But also, he likes to joke a lot too, so it's hard to tell. But if he's serious, I don't want him to hate his son's name.

Honestly, this is my son's name. I feel it in my heart. When you know you know. Even if my husband said, "You can have your first choice name." I would say no, because nothing else feels right.

This little boy is Joshua.

So I guess I'm looking for some guidance here. What would you do? I don't want my husband to resent me. Maybe it will grow on him? Or maybe he's screwing with me 🤷