Am I controlling?

My fiancé and I are expecting!! This is my first baby and his 4th. He has three kids with his ex who he divorced 4 years ago.

He has sole custody and their mom sees them every other Saturday. Its supposed to be every other weekend but she's too busy for them. Yes I'm allowed to say that. I'm not bashing her just being honest. Her ex, my fiancé and I have been the ones raising them for the past 3.5 years as the kids have been living with us full time and I love them!

Ok so like I said this is my first baby. And I dont know about you....but I have had my baby names picked out forever. Like since I was like 12 it was like if I ever have kids I'm naming them this. So I have my baby names chosen right. My fiancé is mad that I have them picked. I was like this is my first baby. You got to choose your 3. He told me I'm selfish and controlling. Am I?

Also, please note....when we first found out we were pregnant, I wanted to hyphenate and have both our last names and he freaked out on me and made me change my mind so that our baby has his last name. I agreed. Fine whatever. His last name. But im controlling?? Thoughts