Saying ABSO-FUCKIN-LUTLEY NOT but nicely?????

Question

Backstory:
Got pregnant with ex bf. He got very abusive physically and mentally and verbally. Finally was able to leave with my baby and son from previous relationship.
Since I left, I've agreed to let him see the baby out in the open or public. This has only happened a handful of times and I'm pretty sure all the time added up is less than that of a full day. 
He just asked how I would feel about him taking my son who has never been without me since I'm a SAHM and college student and whom doesn't even know this man and doesn't really go by him when he is around. ( Son is 11 months)
How do I nicely say no?? Anything I type out seems bitchy to me and I know he's gonna flip out anyways but I'm trying to lessen the blow.

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Simply say not at this time. He is too young. I would have pressed charges and gotten a protective order against him for me and my child.

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If your son isn’t his child then he has no rights to him whatsoever and you can say no. I wouldn’t leave my son with someone that’s abusive.

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I agree with the previous comment of "not at this time, he is too young". He is going to get upset like you said, but this is a good way to shut things down while keeping options open in the future, at least to lessen any conflict for now. If he is really pushy about it, then I would say more time is needed for your son to get used to him. Just because he is his bio father doesn't mean your son won't be stressed out and feel scared being away from you and with little more than a stranger. I know you understand that, but he is a full grown man and he needs to understand that too.

Saying ABSO-FUCKIN-LUTLEY NOT but nicely?????

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