Im 19 and my boyfriend is almost 21. Been together for almost two years and have had a pretty much steady relationship. We did recently go through a like period of constant arguing and just on the verge of breaking up (i guess the stage where most people DO break up and dont stick it out with eachother. Thankfully that time has passed and now we are in a new stage of our relationship i think.

I have noticed however that he never truly imitates dates, never really asks me out on dates, never does small sweet things that in my eyes i would like i guess. However he has given me amazing gifts in the past and does share things with me because his love language is sharing things he likes with me even if it may not interest me. We had an argument recently because I constantly go to his apartment like clockwork. Every weekend for two days, and then i go home. He lives by himself and due to covid i am with my mom. Im tired of just going to his apartment and not even going outside to get air. He never has said hey lets meet here and do this or hey lets go over here and see this or hey im gunna come pick you up and we will go here. So i told him about this and he was incredibly irritated.

He told me i never share what i like with him and i never truly showcase my passions like he does. (He shows movies, music, boardgames pretty much homey things). He basically told me that after almost two years of being tkgether he doesnt know what i like to do. Even though i have told him directly what i like to do what i want to do and what i wish i could do.

He tells me that if i want to do something i need to just say hey we are going to go do this instead of trying to tell him and have him plan it. It upset me because the concept is that he has a thought in his mind regarding what i like and he would set up a day and PLAN and INITIATE something.

I felt ridiculous after this argument and it made me very upset and just tired of constantly having to tell him what i want and him having the same excuses. He is a wonderful guy and i dont have many friends because i move around a lot and they live in many different places.

Am i reasonable about being annoyed about this or no? Ive noticed he has become very careless about his hygein habits recently and also just like freshining up and looking good for me sometimes. Is he just truly subconsciously not as in love with me deep down anymore or is he just super duper comfortable? Hes mentioned in the past that he always feel unproductive and lazy and just that he doesnt want to do anything and nothing that he used to love, interests him.

I feel like something happened to him deep down and due to him being very closed off, he wouldnt tell me.