My dad and I have been having the same argument for the past two weeks ever since I told him I'm moving out. Btw I have never lived with him, I have always lived with my mom, I would only see my dad one day during the week & sometimes weekends when I was younger. He would always treat my friend better whenever I tried talking to my own dad, I would always be ignored or always telling me he's busy. Also I'm 24, my boyfriend is 29 a mixed black man who's a forest service firefighter, out of no where my dad says to me "I'm afraid if they try to shoot your bf, they'll miss and hit you instead" and bringing up black lives matter. My dad wanted to know my plans for the future and when I told him about working as an Occupational Therapy Assistant at a Children's Hospital he said he liked it but the next day says he doesn't understand my reasoning for moving nor the benefit of it and that he would like to sit down and talk again about it. Which in return made me feel he was not listening at all. Yesterday he starts bringing up my learning disability trying to convince me to go to a Jr College when I already applied for the trade school. My dad wanted to meet with me but since tension was so high I decided not to until things "simmer" down between the both of us which he took offense to that. This man also had an affair with another woman while with my mom telling me "it just wasn't fun anymore" & has the audacity to tell my mom she looks so "oriental" which she is Filipino. He's telling me I'm like a child running away whose afraid to announce her guilt. My mom knew my plans of moving because I live with her the only thing she disagrees is the fact that were not married but otherwise she supports me & is there for me and knows I'm an adult wanting to grow n making my own choices. My dad would try to get my cousin to "parent" me instead of himself. Also, I have a part time job as a caregiver / instructor so I make my own money.. I'm at a way different stage of my life then I was a few years ago not knowing what to do as a career and having no job. I feel as though my father does not help me grow as a person. On top of that, when ever trying to my pay my own phone bill the money sending app he would use never worked and one time through a family plan I thought I was paying my own bill but ended up paying for my mom and dad's as well. My dad got mad that I paid for all of their stuff although a thank you would've been nice. Then he goes worrying about my finances and to save money to go to my school but then telling me to save up for a car instead. My dad's been telling me that my bf & I are selfish and asking what my bfs plan is for me? Also my bf has two daughters and they love me and call me "mommy" , I get along with their birth mom's and even celebrated her 3rd birthday with the biological mom + her husband (stepdad for bfs daughter) and my bf and me at disney. My dad is saying "you better not get pregnant he has the kids to prove it" meanwhile my mom says if you see a future with him n get married focus on that then that's ok and she's the religious one. My dad then started bringing up how he's struggling with maintaining his property with the pandemic he can't hire manual labor so rather than "joining forces". It's also been two weeks since I moved out.