Is this normal?

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I am a SAHW with no children. I am a full time student but besides that, I don’t do much. I decided I wanted to start going to the gym. I talked to my husband about it and he immediately got weird and brought up meeting guys at the gym. Joking around saying I’ll leave him.., but then told me to do it if I want. But then through out the day will encourage working out at home or with him when he’s off work .. I just wanna go when I’m sitting at home bored out of my mind sitting in my own thoughts. We’re in a wedding in 4 months and I want to look my best and I feel guilty now wanting to go to the gym. Is it normal for husbands to feel uneasy about their wife going to the gym alone?

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My husband wouldn’t care at all. But if you’re willing to compromise with him you could go to an all female gym. Personally I prefer that anyways.

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Maybe he's just uneasy because it's something new to him? I wouldn't jump to toxic though. Toxic would be him flat out saying no.

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No it’s not normal at all. It’s the gym. To me he sounds controlling.

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Yes. I would think so. I don’t even wanna go to the gym alone lol.. I don’t like going anywhere alone

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Is there a reason why you are staying at home? (Tradition. Religion, health condition, choice...)

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To me it just sounds like he’s a little insecure and it’s a compliment that he obviously knows you’re a prize 😌 
I’d you do end up going, just don’t ever talk about men at the gym/trainers/etc. Some guys have a hard time keeping their insecure imaginations from running wild just like some women do.

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Not normal. And I feel bad for the people who said yes. You 100% can and should go to the gym on your own if you want. If it were me, I'd go anyway. You're your own person don't let someone else control what you do or feel guilty for doing basic things like working out at a gym by yourself.

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That seems manipulative to me. If it was my relationship i wouldn’t dance around it. I’d have a straightforward talk about why he’s insecure about it.

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He may be concerned about your safety. My sister in law was raped at a gym so my husband always wants to come with me so that he knows for certain that I'm safe. Just talk to him and see where this uneasiness is actually coming from before you jump straight to "he's toxic"

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Just go. He said it’s fine, ignore all his other petty comments. Working out is a passion of both of ours so he understand I go to the gym the workout not talk to people. Even if we do go together he sees guys checking me out and will just laugh and say heslucky 🤷‍♀️ just go don’t let him hold you back your not doing anything wrong he’s just being a little insecure

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