I've been married for 4.5 years. In the beginning my husband was really bad about giving gifts for holidays. Gifts are important to me. We talked about it several times over the years, he's aware of the issue and was working on it and doing pretty well.

I was a little disappointed with my Christmas from him this year but it was our first Christmas with a baby so I was just happy to buy presents for the baby 🤷‍♀️

Holidays are a big deal to me, they're really important and I always work really hard to put a lot of effort into making them special. And I always try to make him feel special on his birthday.

My birthday is February 13. (Saturday) about Wednesday he admitted to me he didn't have anything for my birthday. So , assuming he has absolutely nothing planned I planned and shopped for my own birthday breakfast, and dinner, and Valentine's breakfast and dinner. In addition to getting him Valentine's treats. I did all this around caring for our 4 month old son and working around his schedule to get this crap done.

My birthday rolls around..........

Nothing

Valentine's day....

Nothing

No apology, no explanation, just him being overly silly and chatty to try and make up for the fact that I'm sitting there silently eating my breakfast 🤷‍♀️

He knows I'm upset. He's made jokes like "is that your "I'm mad you didn't get me anything" voice?" So he knows I'm upset. I told him I always try to make him feel special on his birthday and he just said it's harder for him and I know he's not good at this stuff.

But literally nothing????

I've been sulking all weekend and I feel really petty but it just feels like he didn't think of me at all. If I didn't plan every single thing we'd have done absolutely nothing different from a regular day.

I don't know what to do at this point or what to even say. 🤦‍♀️