Offer food

Why do only men offer “food” im a single woman living alone and pay my bills as every adult should but I’m getting back into dating and men only seem to wanna come over to eat, chill and possibly have sex. Where am I going wrong? I’m 23years old this is not Okay. They never ask “is there anything you need me to bring” or etc. any advice or tips? I want to be courted, and go on dates. I want to be offered more than food.