What are your thoughts on this?

So I’m a SAHM. My son is almost 19 months and still isn’t talking. He can say mama but that’s it. I actually think he has regressed a bit because he used to say 5-6 words around the 14 months but around 15/16 months he just stopped babbling and talking. At 18 months I brought it up to my pediatrician and she agreed he was behind in speech and had us referred to early intervention and made an appointment to get his hearing checked.

I’m 100% for having my sons hearing checked and him being screened to see if he has any delays and then put him in speech therapy if he needs it. He is behind and not talking or babbling as much as he should be.

The problem is everytime I bring up my sons speech delay my husband gets upset. I’m not sure if he is in denial my son is behind or what. He just won’t talk to me about why he is getting mad and all he says is “he is fine. Not all kids are the same. He will talk when he is ready” etc... things along the lines of that. He doesn’t want me to get him screened by early intervention or get his hearing checked (he can hear noises but I want his hearing checked because he doesn’t respond to his name or simple commands).

We got in a huge fight about it today because my husband said “why do you keep dragging this issue out. Its been over a month. You’re over reacting and exaggerating that he has a problem when all kids are different.”

I honestly don’t think my son has a problem. I *think* he is just more into motor and physical skills, BUT things like him not learning new words or babbling at all, not responding to his name and commands do worry me. I want to get those things checked out because even though I really think he is fine and not interested in talking, I don’t want him to have a problem and not catch it. I’ve tried to explain my reasoning to my husband but he won’t listen. I also think speech therapy might help “kick start” him into talking, even if he may not need it and eventually talk on his own. I’m all for giving my son the tools he needs to help him. Plus he is starting to throw tantrums and I think he gets frustrated he can’t communicate what he wants to us and think therapy could help that.

Anyways, after this huge fight about my husband thinking I’m over reacting I told him that he really needs to trust me on this because I’m with my son 24/7 and am the one around him the most, working on skills with him the most and watching him develop on a daily basis while he works 8-5 (leaves at 7 and comes home around 6. My son wakes up at 7 and bedtime is 7:30 so he is only around him all day on the weekends).

He got SO offended I said that and told me that’s not how parenting works and he should have 50% of the say.

Do you agree with that or do you think I should have more of a say since I’m at home with my son more and watching him develop/ learn?

It would be different if it was another subject like who babysits or where to send my son to school, but I just feel like my husband isn’t around my son as much so can’t really see how behind he is with speech and so he doesn’t see a need to get him looked at.

Also I just think... what’s it hurt to get him looked at and his hearing check? If everything is fine.. great! But if it’s not, then it’s a good thing that it was looked at.

What do you all think? Should I let him have more of a say or just keep doing what I’m doing and get my son checked out?