Telling my husband I’m gay...

UPDATE!

I came out to him tonight and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. We both cried but then both felt relieved because we had been pulling away from each other and our marriage was so stressful. It’s going to hurt for a while, especially for him, but we are both glad I did this.

How do I tell my husband that I only love him as a dear friend and that I’m fully gay, not bi? We have a daughter and I’m ok to stay living with him/married to him until she’s a little older, but I’m so scared I’m going to break his heart when I fully come out to him...

*****EDIT******

I DIDNT KNOW I WAS GAY UNTIL THIS YEAR. I thought maybe I was bi, but I’ve had to admit to myself that I’m just gay.