Am I being ungrateful?

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Okay a little back story. I have a one year old and I’m 22 weeks pregnant with our second. My husband is in the fire academy and I stay at home with our son. I absolutely love being at home with him and I understand that I chose to do this. When my husband is home, I have to ask him to do things (change diapers etc.) and his response is always “well why can’t you do it”. I understand he’s the only one working right now, but I don’t have time off ever. This past month he’s hardly even touched me. I don’t even want sex, I just want someone to be there and cuddle me and love on me. We got in a big fight this morning and then flowers showed up at the door step. He literally never sends flowers. I’m not a big fan of flowers either, and he knows this. Which is why he never sends them. I absolutely HATE roses and he knows this. He knows my favorite, or so I thought. He sent me roses and I may just be reading into it wayyy too much but this just makes me feel like we’re even farther apart than I originally thought. I’m appreciative of the thought, but it just made me realize how little he truly listens. I know it’s not good to bottle everything up, but I have been for the past month or so and I’m at my breaking point. It could be the pregnancy hormones just going off the charts, but I just feel so alone

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Your feelings are valid. But.... sometimes we hve to think big picture. You fought with your husband..... and hes trying to send a peace offering. Accept the offering and go from there. Later on slowly educate him as to what you like.                
     I also tell women to communicate with a man effectively. Men have ego they like stroke. Men do have feelings and like to be appreciated. In this case youll have to use your emotional i telligence to get what u want. Give him the chance to play the hero instead of the villain. Also be specific because men like specifics. Babe Im feeling overwhelmed and need your help. Can u commit to one hour of uinterupted  quality time with our babes a day so i can get a break. Find a good moment and respectfully talk to him so he can be in a mind frame to listen.

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I don’t know about the roses, but the fact that he isn’t helping you with your children together when he’s home is a red flag in my opinion. I think fathers should WANT to spend time with and take care of their children and contribute to the household.

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Why are boys like that. You need to remind him that child is half his and his responsibility to help. Takes two to tango and it takes two to make a child. Really he needs to go to parent classes and learn how to be a father. He doesn't step right now he's never going to step up and be there like he should.

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Eh...it sounds to me like he is having a disconnect with you as well. It's possible that for as upset you are with him, he is equally as upset with you. "Checking out" when he's within your presence, not looking to please you, not seeking physical intimacy, and blanket gestures are all indicative of that. I feel almost as if it would be a shock for you to find out that his satisfaction with you is waning. 
Your best bet is to put your grievances aside and while calm and un-agitated initiate a heartfelt conversation with him. Communicate with him, let him communicate with you. Try to resolve it before your marriage ends up in real peril. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own stuff and drama that we don't see those around us doing the same. Then when we are ready to work it out.....they aren't.
Talk.
Good luck. ❤

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No. You have the right to be upset and you should talk to him about it. As for the roses, I know he means good but how could he get you something he specifically knows you don’t like? Some men just don’t think so I’m with you on that. Have a serious talk with him. Hope it gets better

Am I being ungrateful?

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