Husband & Rude Comments

So, basically my husband just never says anything -genuinely- nice to me. Never compliments me, hypes me up or anything. Now, I think an important part of the story is he has some pretty severe PTSD and depression and had a bad childhood, and all of his relationships before me were awful and abusive, physically and mentally by the women towards him. He's had a tough go at life. I'm 24, he just turned 35. We've been together for a little over 2 years. I do 99.9% of things around the house and try to make his life as easy as possible. He knows I treat him better than anyone ever has treated him, and every once in a while he will say how happy he is with his life and proud of where he is now and how he wouldn't give it up for anything. When we started dating it was all "sweetheart, gorgeous, ect" and all over me the first couple months. Now we rarely have sex. Maybe a couple times a month.

I have self esteem issues, I suffered with restricting when I was in highschool and lost almost 70lbs in like 8 months. I've been "recovered" for at least 6 years now but I still really struggle with my body image and loving myself. Unfortunately my husband doesn't help with this. He definitely has a sadistic sense of humor I guess you could say where he always just makes rude comments. Pokes fun at my body hair when I shave 90% of my body literally every day, every once in a while will rave over the "crazy sex" with his psycho ex, comments on my body and just things he should realize don't make me feel good. I bring it up sometimes and tell him he never has anything nice to say to me.

I want to feel comfortable with my body, I want to feel sexy, I want to have confidence in the bedroom but I'm shy and don't know how and his comments make me not want to even try because I feel like he would silently judge me.

I just spent $15 on a lingerie body suit in Amazon to see if I liked it on my body, and hopefully he would like it. He opened the package before I got home today and the first thing he said to me when I walked in the house was "you got a package. Jeans and your red lingerie wannabe sexy thing".

Now I don't even want to try it on. I just want to send it back. He tells me I always ruin the mood, but theres literally no "mood" ever because he never makes me feel sexy or craved or whatever. He thinks no one else would want me and that I don't want sex or cant be sexy.

I don't know if he's projecting his own bodily insecurities onto me to try to make himself feel better??

Any thoughts or input is welcome. I just want to see what people have to offer as advice or anything.

Thanks!