Is my bf unsure about being with me?

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This hurts like a bitch. Correct me if I’m wrong or if I’m being extra!!! 
Idk about y’all or how you manage relationships but one thing is that i hate involving others in my relationship. I’m an adult. 27 years old and I would never go crying to my mother/ dad/ brothers. I deal with it on my own unless I’m being threatened. 
My bf and I have been having a rough patch for the past week. I’ve dealt with this shit on my own. He asked for a day to cool off and I did. Next thing he does is text me telling me “I’ve been talking to my mom a lot and my sisters and my cousins and aunt. They suggest we just break up because neither of us is mature. “
🤣 Lmao ok?! Cool! Tell the whole world. So I wished him the best and I hope he finds the girl he loves. 
He comes attacking me saying he doesn’t want to be with anyone but me. Dude I just ignore him. Well I’m planning a vacation to Cabo San Lucas with my girlfriends. He’s been calling me like crazy tellin me why have I moved on so fast. He literally broke up with me???
Honestly I love him so much but idk he brought his family in between

Accepted Answer

I find it odd that you don't like involving other people in your relationship, yet you are literally telling the whole world. Save the drama and move on. Either be with him or don't. No one is perfect, some people lean on the advice of others, and while I dont agree with involving others, thats just how some people are.

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Outside perspectives can be a blessing or curse. You are involving strangers, he involved family. So really you aren't any better for whining about him involving his family. He told you what they said, from what you wrote he did not say he wanted to part ways. You basically write k bye, and claim he came attacking you about how he doesn't want anyone other than you... He didn't attack, he was trying to say he wants y'all to work through the issues. Sounds like you don't if so quick to toss him aside. He sounds sure, you don't. So it's up to you if you wish to continue being with him or not. We don't know the situations at hand so I can not tell you what I think of it.

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I’m with you honestly. He can’t say everyone’s telling him to break up with you snd then get mad that you’re not begging him to stay. 
I also don’t tell my business to my family. If I need to talk, I hire professional help. Maybe I’ll discuss minor issues with a close friend but my relationship is between me and my partner. Asking on an app of strangers is not the same as telling your family only your side of the story and putting them against your partner .

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I didn’t actually see where he broke up with you. He told you someone else suggested a break up. My response to that would have been, “How do you feel about that? Do you agree with them?”.... Not “OK bye!” 
I see a lot of hypocrisy in this post. 
1. You are also seeking outside help and you’re seeking it from strangers, not even family. In healthy relationships, you should be able to seek outside advice. If there wasn’t so much negativity in the relationship, there wouldn’t be too much negative to talk to family or friends about. My rule in relationships is that if you don’t want it getting back to the family, don’t do or say it in the first place.￼ Learn how to be in relationships without being assholes to each other. ￼Because seeking outside advice is one way for people to keep partners accountable for their own behavior.
2. You are literally jumping the gun and straight to extremes before even giving him a chance to speak. Yet you claim you love him so much. Well which is it? Do you want to leave him and go to Cabo because someone else suggested breaking up? Or do you want to talk about it and work it out like a grown-up who actually loves her partner?￼￼
I think if you are ready to bounce Because someone suggested it, then￼ it’s time for the both of you to realize that this might not be real love. ￼

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Sounds like he is getting input from others.... just like you are doing right now. He is mature enough to realize that he needs to reach out for advice and that he needs to grow in his own. Take that as a good thing, thank him for his honesty, and move on and grow in your own life. Ignoring him and cutting him out shows your immaturity so I have to agree with him that y’all need to separate and grow

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Honestly based on this post I’d say he’s right. He wanted time apart to work on your issues as individuals and you pretty much said “k bye then” This story is worded pretty heavily biased in your favor but you seem to neglect the irony you’re calling him out for getting outside perspective yet you put this on a public app. 
You don’t seem to be on the same page as each other at all

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I think its normal to ask for advice sometimes. 
You're the one who seems to be overreacting and acting immature.

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I think he does want to be with you because he literally told he wants to be with you. 
I think he just needs advice from his close ones.

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I’m confused. You’re calling him your bf but also state you guys aren’t together?... 
anyways, yes I feel like he has mixed emotions. Him involving others is only confusing him even more. 
I don’t agree with the whole tic for tac. If you’re done,
Go have fun with your girls. If not, don’t stoop to his level- go, just to come back and talk to him. You guys will be just digging your hole deeper

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I mean he did not break up with you. He told you what some people advised. He didn't so that. 
So in your own words I so think you are being extra.

Is my bf unsure about being with me?

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