How to have anal without tearing my a$$?

Hello everyone,

so I have tried to have anal sex with my bf, but it always ended up tragically. The pain is indescribable. My bf is still kind of pushing me and really wants me to try it with him. At this point tho, it’s kind of a mental problem - I even flex my muscles down there when he is just fingering my a-hole. I really want to have anal though, just the first experiences screwed it up a bit.

Does anyone know how to overcome this? I will be forever thankful for any pointers/stories how you made it ❤️

It’s been a year since we started “trying” (with a huge pause) - now I wanna do something about it.