Our sex life is stale.

Things still aren't going well after 3 years of marriage. He's never had a drive, and I was insecure and sex was how I felt validated ( my psychiatrist told me that)

Now that I'm secure in myself and I can say I feel confident, my drive is mostly gone. We hit up about maybe once or twice a week when it used to be 3-4. Sometimes it's not even once a week now because it's only my husband initiates mostly these days.

With me being as insecure as I used to be, and my husband being insensitive, he would reject me very harshly when we were newly Weds. Like I'd ask what he wanted to do that night and he'd roll his eyes and say I hope you weren't thinking of sex. He has always been different with sex.

Today I've been making out with him all day and before I went to the gym he came into my bath and made out with me. I also shaved my whole body.

Tonight after I got home from a long work I got naked and was walking around naked for 10 minutes before I showered and he didn't do anything, just groaned about how he was tired but he'd been planning on sex all day. I then told him that sometimes it hurt my feelings when I am naked in front of him and he doesn't flirt with me or something ya know. I am very private so he only sees me naked when I'm sending an invitation for sex.

So then he got in the shower and I went and laid on the bed all sexy, putting myself out there, pussy on display and everything, and he once again didn't flirt with me or touch me or kiss me. He told me a big part of why we were going to have sex was because he felt pressured and that I would get upset and that he wasn't feeling sex.

Not that he wanted to make me happy and feel loved, but a self serving attitude of protecting himself. I would've respected if he would've said he was too tired for sex, but he just kept stringing me along.

So then when I was embarrassed and crying because he said the thong I was wearing reminded him of what sumo wrestlers wear I kept asking him to leave because I needed a moment and he wouldn't respect it. Kept saying his case for why my feelings weren't valid basically because he didn't mean things that way.

He will never understand how much I went through and am still going through. I keep thinking maybe one day a flip will switch and he'll see that I'm sexy and curvy and appreciate all the photos I took for him and the lingerie that I wore for him. I keep thinking that maybe this vacation will be the one to reinvigorate our sex life but it never is.

I go online looking at lingerie feeling excited and then that evil voice in my ear tells me you know he won't care. He never cares.

I am a sexy, glamorous woman who would wear lingerie all day in the house and try new things and it's completely lost on him. It hurts so bad even though I love myself.

Jaja, I only want sex like once every three weeks and he never sees me naked. Your comment is rude and you obviously didn't understand my post. I was naked for ten minutes because I was getting home from the gym and undressing and preparing for a shower.