Would you be mad?

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I’m so tired of my husband giving his mom explanation about EVERYTHING like where we go, what store, where he works every days what time he’ll be off like I don’t even ask that, she even asks him things about my family that have nothing to do with them. We currently live with them hopefully not for long but in my opinion that doesn’t mean she has to know it all. And No it doesn’t affect me but it bothers me I feel I have no privacy at all. I HATE IT I don’t even feel married because there is no one thing that me and my husband know only is to SHE KNOWS IT ALLL idk what to do anymore I try to ignore it but it’s hard. The worst thing my husband doesn’t realize his family behavior and him being a “mommy’s boy”  is ending with our relationship

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Depends. If she’s asking him, it means she isn’t asking me, so that’s a win! If he comes home late sometimes, I understand wanting to know what nights I’ll hear the door opening, so I know if my house is being broken into or not. At the end of the day; the less I interact with her, the better. If it doesn’t directly impact me, I don’t care. Learn to choose your battles if you’re living under their roof 🤷🏼‍♀️

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You can ask him to not tell her things about you and your family if that is a problem for you. But the rest is really up to him if he wants to tell or not and if he doesn't mind I don't really know why you should. Also that is what families do who care for each other they talk about their lives. Whenever my daughter is back she tells us so many things about her week without me even asking. She will tell when she worked, what she did, I would be so sad if she wouldn't talk to me about her life. And talking to his mum doesn't make him a mama's boy, it makes him her son. And from what I know he was that first before he was your husband. So why should you come between their relationship now?

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I’m not sure I get the issue? She’s just talking to your husband, asking questions and being a part of his life? My MIL asks about my family all the time because I am her family and it’s important to her. It’s not abnormal to talk to your children about their lives. Have you thought about being her friend rather than seeing her as an enemy? Maybe y’all shouldn’t live together.

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What’s wrong with this? You’ve got to remember that right now you are living under her roof so she can ask whatever she likes if her son and his girlfriend are staying at her house, he could genuinely be very close to his mum, most girls are and men should be allowed to do this too. 
If he is telling her private things about your relationship then talk to him about it, but if she wants to know about her son whilst he is living under her roof then I think she has the right too.

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I dunno, I am a little like this with my mom. I tell her a lot- we talk a lot- and she’s aware of most things going on. The only thing is that I don’t tell her about any issues between him and I. That is between us. But stuff about my daughter or my pregnancy or our daily activities my mom is usually aware of

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If i never lived with my in laws i wouldnt care but having lived with my in laws yes that shit would bother me!  My mil is obsessed with my husband and ok hes your son but even her kids think its weird!  Hes her youngest first to get married the only handy person in the entire family and she always makes comments about how she wishes she married someone like my husband 🤮. She always use to stick her nose in our marriage and it was so annoying. Thankfully my husband didnt encourage it and when she owverstepped in our parenting he said something n out an end to it. 
I would tell your husband you get you all live together but there needs to be some divide in your lives and you would like abit morw privacy on things

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haha my mil is same. she asks him who is on the phone everytime my husband gets a call and when he answer its his office colleague or friend, and she still asks him who is it when she doesn't know any of them.
 It's really really frustrating . It becomes more n more frustrating if you don't learn to ignore it. Some people don't change.

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you most definitely need to have a talk with him. there are always boundaries. i can see he loves his mom very much but you need to help him understand that you both still need privacy.

Would you be mad?

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