When I’m mad

I want to tell my husband he doesn’t know how to be a dad because he didn’t have one.

He leaves for hours at a time. Has 8 weeks off for bonding and just stays on phone playing games.

I know if I tell him this may break his heart or open his eyes. I’m so overwhelmed and tired of him acting like a single man. And yes I do communicate all he said is he’ll do better and he’s sorry