My husband and I have one 2yo son. We want more desperately but growing our family requires <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> treatment. My previous employer offered insurance coverage that covered most of this, but my new employer doesn't so it is about to become VERY expensive for us. My husband is a middle school teacher and I work from home as a Project Engineer for a Solar company.

When COVID became a worry, we started keeping our son home full time, with me while I work. It was a HUGE challenge but we overcame it and have a pretty good system now and don't want to put him back into daycare.

With my employment change, my husband agreed (reluctantly) to get a Summer job tutoring to bank money for <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a>. This was his last week teaching for the school year and he told me that he is feeling pushed out of parenting over the last year and feels like he isn't an equal parent to me.

I know he feels like he doesn't get the same time with our son that I do, so I have been picking up the slack doing the laundry and house chores (except the dishes that my husband does while I give our son his bath nightly because my husband hates bath time), which gives him time after work that he can have the face to face playtime he said he was lacking.

How do stay home parents keep this balance? Does your husband feel like less of a parent because you are parenting full time and they're not? My husband is great with kids but is far better at being a playmate than at things like resolving a fit or teaching sharing, or even letting our son be independent. He's been working on these things but he really just isn't naturally good at them like I am.

Is there a way I can help him understand than he's not a lesser parent hes a provider for us so it's a different parenting role? Any podcasts or books or websites that can help me and him?