Does your 3 year old boy dream about wearing a dress and wanting to be a ballerina?

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We don't gender stereotype. He plays with dolls and cars. Loves the colours blue and pink. Loves Emma from The Wiggles and Peppa pig. He wants to be a ballerina and loves dancing like one which is adorable. Family members suspect our son may be gay but I personally grew up playing with boys, sports, cars ect. Why was it ok for me (as a girl) to like stereotypical 'boy things' but there is judgement when my son likes stereotypical 'girl things'. It doesn't bother my husband and but the unecessary comments from family members bothers us. Why can't he just be aloud to love what/who he loves? Sorry. Rant over.

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Agreed. I hate this shit. Girls can like bugs and playing in the dirt and they’re just cute little “Tom boys” but if a boy likes the little mermaid he’s automatically gay. Which 1) who the fuck cares if he is? And 2) can we maybe stop sexualizing children all together? It’s like that whole “oh how cute! So-and-so has a boyfriend/girlfriend!” when the kid is like 2, it’s so gross. Your three year old doesn’t need a sexuality assigned to him, he’s three. He’ll figure it out himself as he grows up.

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I don't understand why people have to make comments like these. 🙄 Kids are just exploring and have no understanding of gender(they might know the difference but probably not more than that) or sexuality. And doesn't sound like you would care if he was. So why do they care so much? 
My nephew loved the color pink and TuTus when he was little and wore than all over the place. He is 8 now and on Vday he sent this girl he thinks is cute a vday card.

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My son loves playing with sand and dump trucks one day and Barbie houses the next they are kids they soak in everything around them and are learning all about everything right now. Who cares if he dreams about that? What would it matter??

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Some days he's an airplane, other days he's Elsa from frozen, or a dinosaur, a t Rex, me when he wears my shoes, a ninja, a ghost, a tree, a dog...it's anything and everything. He plays with all the typical boy toys but also plays with his sisters toys/dolls/kitchen set/etc. We just let him explore and play as he wants.

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I’m in a different boat altogether… at 3 my first started telling us she was a girl (assigned male at birth) and demanded we use she/her pronouns. She has never given 2 hoots about ballerina stuff, which was sort of a bummer since my sisters and I all used to dance. However I have a friend with a son of the same age who is obsessed with being a ballerina. I cut off people who said shit about my first’s interest in “girl” stuff like princesses.

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My nephew wanted to be Elsa desperately.  I bought him a singing Elsa wand for his birthday one year and his dad threw it away right away.  He worked so hard to teach him that “girl” stuff was bad and wrong that now, when his baby brother plays with one of his sisters toys, he completely freaks out and rips it out of his hands.
My son has two older sisters.  He’s almost 2.  He plays with some girl stuff because of it and I really don’t care.  He can choose to love what he loves and if anyone has anything to say about it, they’ll get an earful from me 😂

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My SIL got into it with someone at Target because my nephew LOVES Elsa from Frozen. My SIL is an Air Force vet who carries a knife and has a strong tendency to go Mama Bear on your ass. My sister’s son wanted to paint his room bright pink. My sister only told him no because they’re selling the house and hot pink rooms don’t sell as well. Growing up with all boys, I was always confused by girl stuff/boy stuff. My husband thinks it’s is totally ridiculous while also recognizing how strong those social constructs/opinions were for him when he grew up.

Does your 3 year old boy dream about wearing a dress and wanting to be a ballerina?

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