Vented

Long story short sister has been cheating and sleeping around. she’s been married about six years and decided to leave him again “for real this time” . I basically had to convince her to go through with it cuz at first she was gonna try to stay and have an open relationship without even telling him. She’s moved back to our state and area. I’ve been watching her kids almost every day since she got a job. She moved here the week of my wedding and made it ten times harder than it should have been. Was my maid of honor but didn’t help w a damn thing and I had to help her move not once but twice that week when I had so much to do already. Wedding is over with now and she’s settling in her place. For months though she’s been cheating and sleeping around. Her husband literally just figured out that she was leaving him and wanting divorce. Nothing is legal or official yet. She’s been talking to plenty of guys and specifically seeing an old friend of hers almost every night to hook up. She fell for him and he doesn’t want a relationship so now she’s butt hurt and going on dates w other guys. Should I even mention she doesn’t know how to consistently take birth control and already had a pregnancy scare when I just lost my first pregnancy we actually tried for. She tells me about other guys she’s known forever ( she met them as a teen when they were well into adult years ew ) wanting to wife her up and be with her as if they are real options. And Of course asking me to babysit on her days off so she can date. Well first date night with a stranger and she’s stayed over. I wouldn’t give two shits if it was a single friend with or without kids, but it’s my sister and she’s can DO BETTER. She has the biggest opportunity to take advantage of this time to grow as an independent person and get to know and develop her kids. She chooses to focus on guys though, mainly just for sex. This bothers me yes and people on here have told me before it’s none of my business but here I am with her kids and worrying about my sister because she said she’d be sleeping over tonight but she’s not here. I obviously care about her but she’s fucking up and affecting everything around her. Her four year old can’t even count to five or socialize with other kids without being violent and her nine year old is asking the hard questions already because she’s not stupid and hears everything. Where the duck is my sister??? It’s 4am and I can’t sleep knowing she’s acting a fool

Not gonna punish the kids, they don’t have anyone else reliable to watch them. They need someone more than ever right now

The dad is currently training for a federal job on a private base he’s unfit to care for them right now and has even said his wife and kids weren’t enough for him and that’s part of why she left. Cant blame her for something like that but she still needs to step up. I’ve finally got a message from her at 6am this morning and she said she’ll be here soon and thinking about taking the day off.