need advice

so ive been with my bf for 6 years and this relationship sucks... the lack of communication the lack of sex and the lack of respect and the lack of money... he doesnt respect give money for what i need or for the kids have sex or want to listen to me why im not happy... he doesnt care is what he said to me he never cared of what i say.. im very unhappy and miserable.... this relationship is lacking alot of things and i cant fix it if he doesnt want to fix anything... ive tryed over and over talking to him and sometimes i want a real man to make love to me and kiss me and cuddle and everything... sometimes i think about cheating because i need that one to make love to me but then again i dont because my bf dont cheat and i dont do that stuff. is like i need attention one good time... i want a man to respect me and make me happy but how can i get my bf to do that... how can i fix our relationship when he doesnt fix himself all he does is drink as well... how can i love him again and fix our problems??? i also angry all time because of everything....