Am I the asshole??

Me and my boyfriend, or ex, idk… decides to tell me he has herpes while we’re super drunk. We HAVENT had sex yet. We’re LD have been for like 11 months & this is day 2 of our second trip to see each other. Since I was drunk I thought he was fucking with me and playing around so I kept telling him I didn’t believe him because why am I just knowing literally about a year into the relationship?

He’s telling me over and over he does, but I’m so drunk and my mind is racing I couldn’t wrap my mind around it. The next morning, we talk about it while we’re sober and I finally accepted it.

Somehow, his mother gets involved. I guess he told her I didn’t believe him so she took the initiative to text me telling me, “at least my son had the audacity to tell you before you guys had sex” SMH🤦🏽‍♀️ like yes at least he did that but he also could’ve told me ELEVEN MONTHS AGO when he decided to ask me out. Since I’m a nursing student, I know a little about STIs and how to protect myself to the fullest I can and that I’d stay with him if we used condoms and he goes back to the clinic for a check up since he hasn’t been since he found out {his reason is bc he hasn’t had a break out🤦🏽‍♀️ but shedding}

She called me to talk more about it and to convince me to stay cause I guess she didn’t know I already decided to. I told her I’d rather talk to him more about it since it’s about him and it’s more-so a private conversation that’s meant for us both and that I in fact, plan on staying with him. I also told her that although he told me before having sex, he also should’ve told me way before.

She then tells him, that I’m rude and aggressive and have a disgusting attitude and thinks I’m too good to talk to her about her own son. I apologized to her and him then I blocked her bc I felt like she was inserting herself into it too much and disrespecting my boundaries. She would text and call me at all hours and get upset when I didn’t text or call her back, she never did this before this situation.

Now my boyfriends mad at me because I blocked her. Before I did, we had a conversation about her and the calls and texts. We both agreed she has no boundaries and I told her if she keeps doing so, I will have to block her. I told him it’s unfair to be mad at me when we already talked about both situations and came to a resolution for both, but she kept on with them. We get into a huge argument & he decided to fly back home A WEEK and some days early.

When he got home, he called me. I didn’t answer and instead texted him how it’s unfair to me that after everything happened, it somehow became my fault and I’m the bad guy. I told him I’d rather not be with him if he can’t defend me from his own mother and not blame me for protecting my peace.

These our some of our messages