LDR advice

I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost three years and it’s been an amazing experience! I’ve had a few ups and downs with him when it comes to communication but we have finally gotten the hang of expressing ourselves healthily which is a blessing but I find myself running into a new problem. We have been planning the day we meet for about a year now and it’s been cancelled multiple times, usually due to financial issues arising and not being able to afford the trip costs and handling the financial issues both at the same time. Which is frustrating and also understandable at the same time. The day we finally meet in person is approaching (July 19) and it seems like my boyfriend is kinda finding reasons not to come see me? I don’t know if Im overthinking it or being crazy so I’m asking for different perspectives from anyone!

(As a precaution I want to say all these interactions I had with him, I was 100% respectful and I looked at it from his perspective before I had said anything.)

The first thing that made me raise a brow is that he recently purchased a brand new car for the sole purpose of using it for work AND to see me, it had 0 miles and everything and somehow it’s having issues right before the trip is supposed to happen? I was really sussed out about it at first, like how convenient and weird.. a brand new car is having issues. But then I heard how frustrated he was about it and I knew he wasn’t bluffing. He’s going to get it checked out before the 19th and assured me it’s probably nothing serious and he will make the trip out. I brushed this off because I understand the fear of driving a car eight hours away when it might have an issue with it! I didn’t think too much of this I was like, “it’ll get fixed and then he will come see me it’s no biggie.” Until the second issue arose.

The second thing is moreso what confuses me? With some background, I truly think he’s a hypochondriac, so I did approach this with some frustration but understanding as well because we all have our own phobias. He recently got this pain in his chest and rib area, he was panicking because it would hurt and he has had some discomfort for a few days so he thought something serious was happening. He then proceeded to tell me if it doesn’t feel better he’s going to have to cancel the trip. I told him that it upset me that he was thinking about cancelling it because this trip has been cancelled so many times before so I was just a bit frustrated about it. I also brought up how it felt he’s making up excuses to not see me, and that I wanted to know the truth. If he was telling the truth about this pain or using it as an excuse because he’s nervous about seeing me and is wanting to back out. He assured me that he wasn’t nervous and then the pain was real. After I had expressed my frustration I decided I would help him figure out what it may be. We ruled it out to be a pulled muscle when picking up some heavy boxes at work, which he said he had felt relief and felt better about it and has taken the steps to treat the pulled muscle. I’ve been asking him if he feels better and he says he does feel a bit better. He also assured me that he wouldn’t cancel the trip unless he felt like he was seriously dying. (lil dramatic) So that comforted me a bit.

But with all this you might ask like, why is this an issue he said he’d still come see you regardless? I guess now its just kind of a looming thing over my head that something else is going to pop up and try to deter him from coming to see me. I just fear he’s not being truthful to me because I understand the fear and nervousness about meeting up because I am absolutely feeling the same fear. I just hope he would express that to me. Or I’m being a total pessimist about all this which is possible too. I truly need others perspectives about this so anything will help. Thank you for reading and helping, also apologize for how long this is. :) <3