Forgiveness (updated: 7/12)

My brother in law has made it very clear from time to time that he doesn’t like me. That’s fine, I get along with all of the other in laws. But recently he flat out told my husband (his brother) not to bring me around. He pretends I’m not around so I just ignore him during family events. He also insults me and we’ve talked it out in the past, to not avail.

His parents (MIL+FIL) noticed that I have been ignoring him and vice versa. So they’ve told me to lean into love and forgive those who I’m offended by. (Aka my BIL) My husband feels the same way. They don’t like that my BIL treats me this way but they say it’s best if I just let it go.

I mean I’ll forgive him. But I don’t want to be around him. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Update (7/12): my husband, knowing how much I don’t want to be around his brother, asked me tonight to hear him out and wanted to know if I’d be open to inviting people over for a movie night, including his brother. I said people can come over, but if he invites his brother I’m not okay with being in the same room as him and I’m not comfortable about him being here. My husband is frustrated that I’m not letting him come over, but wouldn’t press me about it any further. I asked him “do you not understand that I don’t want to be around your brother because he’s so disrespectful to me?” To which he replied, “do you not understand that I just want to invite people over?” I told him I have no problem with him inviting people over. I also have no problem with him going somewhere to hang out and spend time with others, including his brother. I just have a problem being around my BIL because of how mean spirited he is towards me.