My mom and MIL are both driving me crazy. My daughter is only two months old, and it’s my moms first grand baby and my MIL’s second grand baby. I’m having so much inner turmoil about whether I’m being too protective and strict, or am I allowed to tell grandparents “no” sometimes. My mom can’t help but comment on every little thing I do with my daughter (patting her back too hard, products I use, when I change her diaper, etc.) and keeps on suggesting I leave her and go do things. The list goes on. But I’m not comfortable leaving my daughter at all right now, and I even struggle letting people hold her sometimes. And my mom and MIL keep putting me in situations where I feel like I can’t say no, and make me feel like I’m being overly protective. I don’t know how to deal with them, and how to say no. When I visit with people I feel like I’m not allowed to hold her cause everybody else wants to, and I feel like a mean person if I want to ask for her back when someone has been holding her for a long time. Would love to hear some input from other moms.