We had a talk AGAIN… I had just put my daughter down for a nap which she fought and kicked and punched me over. She’s 9 months. I finally just put her in her crib and let her sit in it. Took 45 minutes then she finally fell asleep. While that was going on I sat down with the monitor in the living room.

My husband who works from home came in. Asked what was wrong. I told him I’m done. I need a break. I told him I understand that everything is supposed to be on Mom. I handle the getting up at night. I’ve always done it unless it the weekend and then he’ll lend a hand. I said I get it. That’s how our parents (moms) tell me that’s how it was for them. So that’s how it is. I told my husband “they had grandparents that would babysit. They would get a break to do normal things. Or they’d take the kids out with other moms for a play date. They’d get to be around other people. I don’t get any of that. I have no one to talk to or help.” I know a lot of other SAHMs on here have told me that it should all be on me because he works and both parents don’t have to be worn out. But I’m not a doormat. I need help and sleep too. I’m not a martyr.

So like all the times before he said that we’d figure it out and I could have more freedom. He keeps asking what I want to do and I have absolutely no idea. I mean I want to fix this but I’m at a complete loss of how to answer his question. He said we could see if my parents can take her like every Friday so I can go grocery shopping. He even said have a spa day 😂😂😂😂 we don’t have the money for something like that so the idea just makes me laugh unfortunately.

How do you share the parenting responsibilities? I don’t work so I know with that it’s 99% on me. What works for you?