Boyfriend is trying to convince me to abort at 8-9 weeks

I'm a single mother to a 3 year old and my partner has 2 older girls from a previous marriage. We had sex and I took plan b and it failed. Today I am almost 8 weeks (2 months.) We had the same issue earlier this year and he manipulated me enough to convince me it was the right thing to do. I did it early on about 5-6 weeks.

When he gets mad he says it'll ruin his life and im going to end up being a single mom 2x. He tells me I'll get looked down upon for having 2 different children from 2 different men. I think deep down he hopes he can still get his family back with his ex wife. When he's calm he says he didn't mean it and "we're not ready. You need to finish school. We need to live life and travel!" To a certain extent he is right. But also my body is not a toy to just insert sperm and abort when he does not like the consequences.

The last time I aborted (which was my first time ever) he ghosted me and abandoned me at the hospital after my surgery. I know I should have never gone back but I stupidly believed him when he begged me he was going to change.

It'll be sad bringing another child to a broken home. He has a lot of scary outburst and having to deal w that the rest of my life I'm not sure if I want that. I don't mind being a single mother again.

But aborting at 9 weeks (by the time it gets scheduled) the fetus will have a face already and limbs.. The idea doesn't sit right with me.

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ar

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dude wtf ghost him. have some respect for yourself bestie. he ain’t shit.

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ab • Aug 15, 2021
She can do bad*

ab

ab • Aug 15, 2021
That's what I'm saying sis. She can do by herself with her babies. She doesn't need a man that treat her that way.

Me

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First of all, sounds like you see a lot of red flags with guy which means you probably shouldn’t be having unprotected sex in the first place, Especially if this happened once already. You need a man who knows what your worth. Second, You have to do what You feel is right for that baby first and foremost. Which includes weighing all options if you’re unable to care for it. If you’re able and willing and you keep that child, and he leaves, screw him. It won’t be easy, AT ALL. But you’re a strong Independent woman and you’re only limited by you. Either way, you got this.

Su

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Then don't do it. And dump him.

Ry

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Don’t abort you’ll regret it just leave him and work on your family

Na

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You said it yourself, you don’t mind being a single mum again, so there’s your answer. Bin the manipulative man and have yourself and beautiful baby!

Ye

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Plan b and abortions are not birth control, he seems to think they are. You should not be having unprotected sex with him because he sounds like a fucking honey teen who wants his dick wet. Leave him. If you don’t want it, don’t get it. You should have bought about school and traveling and whatever else before having that unsafe sex.... But you’re here now so dump him and move on.

sn

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I say keep the baby in abort the man.He’s toxic and an awful person. Being a single mom is hard but worth it! I did it by myself for 4 years with 2 kids and I don’t regret a thing

Ca

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Do NOT be using abortions as a form of birth control for his stupid ass. I freaking hate when people do that. Do not let him manipulate you like that. Fuck that "man" ! He ain't no man. Leave him and you raise those 2 babies and you will find someone who will love all 3 of you. Seriously sis fuck him.

Ly

Lynn • Aug 16, 2021
Right

Ly

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If you are unable to care for it choose adoption but I wouldn't keep a baby by him.

Br

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Men love making a good woman feel like no one else will ever love them but them. Girl there is a man out there that will love u and your babies and he knows that. You dont need him. Hes going to have to grow up and face his responsibilities. That baby is alive in you and deserves you even if its just you. I think hes afraid of possibly having to pay child support and being responsible for another life. Im only saying that cuz u mentioned the ex wife

Ly

Lynn • Aug 16, 2021
So true