My husband said he wants to go to therapy

A lot of you have seen the horrible text from my MIL. We are 17. I got pregnant at 16 and we had a shot gun wedding. We have our newborn son now and she harassed my husband with horrible texts. She admitted to abusing him and defended her brother raping him and called him weak and a pussy and a pathetic father. So much abuse. His only good parent was his dad but he couldn't get custody because of his mental illness. His dad sadly took his life. Because of all the pain his mom caused he wanted to completely join my family and took MY last name. I know you guys recommended therapy but I wanted to wait before bringing it up. We live with my parents and he woke me up in the middle of the night in tears saying he thinks he needs help moving from his mom and wants to try therapy and he's afraid of being like her to our son. I told him he would never be like her but he says he wants to try therapy. I'm proud of him and we are gonna find him one. Do you guys think a male or female therapist would be better for my husband?