thoughts on hyphenated last names?

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due in less then 3 weeks & still have yet to decide her last name situation 😩 I want her to have my last name but i know how upset the fathers family would be. Her father isn’t active in her life but his family has always been so welcoming and supportive. I’ve known them for years , been on vacations with them, they’ve bought me soo much to prepare for the baby and i feel like it would really hurt them and my relationship with them if i have her only my last name.. i don’t know what to do

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If he’s not an active part, I wouldn’t give her his name. Maybe a meaningful middle name from their side?

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No, give your child your name. 
Last names are linked to identity. 
Your child will not identify with its father, but with you. 
I've heard from a few a people who didn't have the same last names as the parent who raised them and they said that in someway they felt like they didn't belong.

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Another thought... what is there surname? Maybe you could find a variation and make it a middle name?

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I have had a hyphenated name my whole life, first both my parents for my maiden name then my fathers and husbands as a married woman. I’m all for hyphenation to include everyone BUT you shouldn’t feel obligated to do it because they would be upset.

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Both of my kids have hyphenated last names, I’ve been with their father for 8 years. If we get married they can have his last name

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I like my name Sarah-Jayne but people also use Sarah even when I directly tell them my name. I drives me nuts! I find myself correcting people all the time. Still with it and INSIST schools etc use it!!!!!

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My husband HATES his hyphenated name. I wouldn’t do it.

thoughts on hyphenated last names?

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