Hello everyone, I made the poll a couple of hours ago about my boyfriend cracking my windshield by punching it. I got a lot of questions on that post about why it happened and I wanted to answer them and explain the whole story while remaining anonymous.

So yesterday my boyfriend had a horrible day at his addiction counseling/therapy group that he goes to a couple times per week and I guess he ended up getting in a verbal altercation with one of the other people in his group. He ended up calling her a bitch after she told him to fuck off because he kept interrupting her and now he might be kicked out of the program.

He was mean to me all day over this. I tried to make his day better by buying him Panda Express when I picked him up from counseling and watching our favorite shows. I also let him vent to me. After we ate dinner I went to do some school work on my laptop and his mood got increasingly worse. He kept screaming at me to leave him alone any time I made a small comment (I was barely talking the whole night as I was working on a training class).

Anyway today is our 7 year anniversary and I was so excited to celebrate. I’ve been excited for weeks now and talking about it with my boyfriend because I like to celebrate these things as they only come once a year. Our plan was to go to a street fair in our town and take a walk. I woke my boyfriend up at noon (he was sleeping in) because I had to drive him to a clinic (I drive him every day to this clinic to get methadone, which is a medication that treats opioid addiction. He does not currently drive) and they close at 1pm. Well after I woke him up I went to unlock the metal box where he keeps his prescribed Adderall (he asked me to keep the key and dispense it to him because he is a recovering addict and knows he will abuse it) and his Adderall was nowhere to be found. I asked him where it was and he said he took it and hurled the metal box in my direction, where it landed on my feet and hurt. I told him I was not putting up with this on our anniversary and he said he is done with me and doesn’t care about our anniversary and doesn’t want to go to the fair with me. He also said he was done with his recovery and wanted drugs.

I left the house (we don’t live together yet) and he started calling and texting me begging me to come back. I told him I would only come back if he wants me to take him to the methadone clinic. Before I picked him up to go, I bought myself a Diet Coke and French fries from McDonald’s (this was before I knew I was going to go pick him up as he took awhile to text me back).

When I got to his house he asked me meanly why I didn’t pick him up anything from McDonald’s. I told him I ordered before he responded back to me. He started screaming at me, calling me a bitch and saying he’s done with me and we shouldn’t be together and opening my car door threatening to jump out while I was going 70+ mph on the freeway. (I am NOT the same poster who locked her boyfriend inside a car, I would have gladly let my boyfriend out of the car if it were possible but it was not safe or possible to let him out of the car. I did end up pulling over after he broke the window and he refused to get out of the car and screamed at me to drive). I started crying and said I deserve better than this and he said he deserves better too because I make him mad all the time. I responded by saying that he gets mad at everyone and that’s why he got kicked out of therapy yesterday. This sent him over the edge and he kicked my glovebox and punched my windshield, causing the crack.

I called and got an estimate and they can replace it on Wednesday. It’s $250 plus tax. His parents have to pay it because he isn’t currently working. He is begging me to spend the rest of our anniversary together and apologizing. I don’t know what to do. And I don’t want my parents to see the windshield because I know they will want to know what happened. (We are 22 and both still live with our own parents). 😢 I love him and don’t know what to do. I also feel trapped because his parents don’t want to take him to the methadone clinic everyday but it takes 9 months to get take home doses. So no one else will be available to drive him and I will feel responsible if he relapses.