Advice

My husband and I will be married 5 years in October. We have 3 kids (age 4, 2, and 2 months).

This past year has been really difficult on us due to finances and other stressors. One of those other stressors being my lack of interest in love making. I literally could go months without it and be fine. It has NOTHING to do with whether I still love him; I do. It also has NOTHING to do with whether I’m still attracted to him; I am. My hormones just are way out of whack, and I have zero energy (not to mention I struggle with depression and anxiety—I’m on meds for those).

During a conversation tonight, I asked my husband was he happy. The past year, everything sets him off and he is so easily frustrated and negative. My husband then told me that it’s because we don’t have sex that often. He also told me tonight that he feels like we’re more distanced than we have ever been—I feel it too. I can’t help but feel like it’s my fault, honestly. Having sex just feels like work to me, and it shouldn’t at all.

I do NOT want a sexless relationship to be what ends my marriage, and if it continues this way, I fear that’s what will happen. I just don’t know how to fix it. When I tell you, I’d rather mop the floor than have sex—that’s the God’s honest truth, and I don’t know how to fix that. ☹️