How do you/did you choose God-Parents?

Edit: I know I would have to get it legally in writing.

We have 3 kids under 4yrs old. And I constantly worry about what would happen if my husband and I suddenly died. I know its morbid but I think it’s important to have these things thought out. Just in case.

We do not have any close/best friends. I spent most my time in the military so all my friends are spread out across the country. My husband has like NO friends. My parents are divorced and very much wrapped up in their own lives, my mother is unstable(personal life, financially etc) and my Dad is living like he is 21 again. My husbands parents are married but VERY TRADITIONAL and older. We aren’t comfortable with either parents. My oldest brother is financially stable but recently remarried his wife(12 yrs initially married) after cheating. They have two young boys. His wife and him still seem rocky rebuilding new marriage, understandably. My youngest brother is married with 3 girls but they are not the most responsible parents IMO. And he has a very bad temper.

My husband has a brother and wife who are stable and nice, with 1 girl. But they very EXTREME in their views(politically, anti-vax, dont believe in descriptive words like beautiful, princess etc) You get the idea, they have different lifestyle views than us. They usually dont talk to us but once a year though they live 5 mins away. Mostly because we dont live the same lifestyle as them.

My husband doesnt talk to his extended family(cousins,aunts, uncles) he says they are all druggies. My extended family I have only Aunts and they are not financially stable, and very close minded individuals, crazy. One aunt I would consider but her and my uncle both recently found out they have serious health conditions. My cousins are all single, “wild & free”, living with parents, financially unstable, multiple kids, or drugs etc. I just dont know, I KNOW I SOUND LIKE A JUDGMENTAL B**CH(please dont hate me/us) But trying to find someone suitable for our children that is close to our parenting ways is hard!!

We have talked about maybe making my oldest brother and my husbands brother both God parents. They split custody so the children get to be with my husbands family and mine. My family is all out of state. My oldest brother in charge of the schooling, medical etc and his brother get them in the summers. Something of that nature… How does anyone decide?!