Ways to bring back the 💥🌋🔥

Hey all!

So my hubby and I have 3 kids, 4, 3, and 10 weeks. This past year and a half or so I feel our intimacy and spark has faded. As anyone with kids will know, having 3 little ones around, our life is a little crazy. I've tried talking to him that I feel like something is wrong, but he says everything seems fine to him. When I say intimacy he thinks I mean sex, and I don't know how to describe what I mean to him..

Our anniversary is coming up and he wants to go out for dinner, part of me is screaming, yes! Us time! But another part of me is dreading going out. Ugh.

Our oldest has been having a hard time since the baby and I don't want to Subject anyone else to her craziness and on top of it, that means I have to clean our house to a presentable status bc someone would be coming over. So it stresses me out. We both work full time on top of life with 3 kiddos, it makes it hard to do anything. I've got the kids, work, and hubby to worry about and that leaves nothing for me to figure out my head.

Now I'm pretty sure I hurt my husband bc I wasn't as excited as he thought I'd be when he said he made dinner plans. 😞 How do you all get the spark going again? How do I get over wanting to go out but dread going out at the same time? How do we fix this?

For context, we are 35 and 40 years old but struggling to figure out ways for romance, intimacy and Us time that doesn't seem like it's too much work and increase stress.