Sex life after two kids.

So my kids are 3 and 1 and it seems after my second I have no desire to have sex like ever… maybe once a month.. and my husband always talks about it and wants it but it annoys me and I have no desire… idk of this is normal after kids or if it means I’m not into my husband anymore or what but it has me all sorts of in my head. I also feel super disconnected from my partner in a romantic way and part of me feels like maybe that’s part of the issue. But it feels like when I try to suggest reconnecting it just always go back to sex or like there’s sex expectation. Anybody else have this problem?